Depends on the people. 🙂 That’s perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about relationships in the past 20 years. There’s no such thing as “right for everyone” in most cases.
Ask them. Personally, I find that pretty much everything in life, let alone in polyamory, goes much more smoothly when I ask individuals how they, personally, want to be treated, and then treat them accordingly.
None of this Golden Rule stuff – I live by the Platinum Rule: Treat others as THEY WANT TO BE TREATED.
Conversely, if you have specific wants for Valentine’s Day, don’t wait to be asked – tell the people who need to know. You can’t reasonably expect to get what you want if you don’t ask for it.
Depends on the people. 🙂 That’s perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about relationships in the past 20 years. There’s no such thing as “right for everyone” in most cases.
Ask them. Personally, I find that pretty much everything in life, let alone in polyamory, goes much more smoothly when I ask individuals how they, personally, want to be treated, and then treat them accordingly.
None of this Golden Rule stuff – I live by the Platinum Rule: Treat others as THEY WANT TO BE TREATED.
Conversely, if you have specific wants for Valentine’s Day, don’t wait to be asked – tell the people who need to know. You can’t reasonably expect to get what you want if you don’t ask for it.
OMG it’s the Hat! It totally has a cameo. 😀
That is to say, I’m really glad you’re enjoying it. 🙂
And speaking of awesomness, thanks so much for the bootees. xxxxxx
Heh, I’m glad you approve, of both the hat-on-comic action and the boots! I’m making some more, too. 🙂